1. Be Selfish
It’s senior spring. It’s the last semester of college. The thing about the last semester is, it’s exactly that, the last semester. As basic as it sounds, it really is the time to make it count. While it can be stressful to think about what the future holds, remember to truly live in the present. The friends, professors, and classmates we have right now, are here with us, right now. While it is important to plan for what we will be doing next, it is also important to make sure you are having fun everyday. That’s right, everyday! And I’m not saying you have to drink on a weekday, although that’s definitely happened, but make sure you are taking the time outside of class to really laugh and enjoy yourself. That could look like getting lunch with a friend, or something as simple as listening to your favorite music.
2. Spend time with people who make YOU happy.
I thought of this one from my experience talking to guys. Just because they like you, doesn’t mean you have to like them. What I mean by this is, just because a guy is pursuing you and wants to spend time with you, doesn’t mean you have to give it to them. Sometimes this is obvious, but sometimes there is a guy that you’re not sure of quite yet how you feel about them. Just make sure you like them for their character, and not just because they like you. Really make sure you feel the same way first. Time is so precious, and it isn’t worth spending it in areas that don’t make you happy. This goes for friends too: if you feel like you’ve grown out of someone, or no longer feel like you guys connect, there is nothing wrong with spending less time with them. As long as you are mature about it, it’s perfectly fine.
3. Choose people who choose you
Conversely, don’t invest time in people who aren’t investing their time in you. And I don’t mean for this to sound like a business transaction, but if you feel that you are putting in more effort than someone else, it’s okay to snip snip. Don’t pour yourself into someone who isn’t ready to accept it. Spend time with your truest and closest friends, with whom you feel like yourself, and with whom you feel free. Whenever you spend time with a person, (romantic or platonic) always always ask, does this person add value to my life or take away from it? You are in control. Of your emotions, your time, your heart. All of it. It’s in your hands. You have the power to create a great path for yourself. So why not chase it with all your strength?